雅不起來？那就像俗人一樣幸福的活着

列位看官，今兒個咱就敞開了聊，不整那些虛頭巴腦的，就說說這活着的事兒。您瞧啊，這世上有錢人那是風風火火，走哪兒都跟一陣龍捲風似的，可咱得明白，百分之九十九的人吶，您那所謂的奮鬥，保不齊就是作死的前奏呢！您瞅瞅，身邊越來越多的人，說沒就沒了，跟那電視劇裏突然“駕崩”似的，這可不是我瞎扯，現實裏這樣的事兒還少嗎？所以啊，今兒個咱就講講這“死亡學”，別的您可能都聽膩了，耳朵都起繭子了，麻木得跟那老樹皮似的，可這死亡學啊，不管您是想死、怕死，還是覺得自己能長生不老的，都得好好聽聽，保不準能給您這平淡如水的生活添點滋味兒。

我這人說話啊，可能有點糙，就跟那粗布麻衣似的，不華麗，但話糙理不糙，您吶，就將就着聽，就跟喫那粗茶淡飯，雖不精緻，但能填飽肚子不是？

咱先說說這人和動物的區別。其實啊，咱絕大部分人跟動物真沒多大差別。咱比別的動物心眼兒多點，還會說話，可也就僅此而已。您會的那點本事，別人也會，您不會的，說不定別人還門兒清呢。所以啊，別老信那“天生我才必有用”的話，我跟您說，大概率啊，您就算告到閻王爺那兒，也沒人用您。老天爺也不會把什麼大任務交給咱這些肉眼凡胎，咱就是來這世上湊個數，就像那戲臺上的跑龍套的，您還別不信。

您看啊，絕大部分人連自己的孩子都指點不明白，還想着指點江山呢，那不是癡人說夢嗎？就說那房貸，多少人爲了它忙活大半輩子，到死都還不清，還美其名曰是上天給的使命，您可拉倒吧，想多了！咱絕大部分人能來這地球，真不是讓您來拯救人類的，您能有這想法，那純屬自戀。您能來這世上，原因簡單得很，就是當初您父母一時興起的那點事兒，生活就這麼直白，沒那麼多彎彎繞繞。

要是您非要問我活着有啥意義，我跟您說，就跟當初父母製造咱們的過程一樣，一邊想辦法讓自己活得久點兒，一邊讓自己活得舒服點兒，就這麼回事兒。您別老覺得懶惰就不好，懶惰那是爲了減輕您心臟的負擔呢，就跟那老馬跑累了得歇歇腳一樣。貪睡有啥錯？多睡一會兒，那是爲了增強咱的免疫細胞，讓咱身體倍兒棒，喫嘛嘛香。偶爾犯點小錯，那也不是啥大不了的事兒，就跟那小貓小狗調皮搗蛋似的，那是所有動物的本能，也是爲了刺激咱的大腦皮層，讓咱這身體充滿激情地活下去。古人早就看明白了，“食色性也”，這話說得在理兒。

可好多人呢，爲了掙那大錢，就跟喫了搖頭丸似的，瘋魔了。您想想，您是喫不上飯，還是沒牀睡覺啊？就算您掙到了大錢，那又咋樣？您看看那些腰纏萬貫的所謂“富人”，到最後不是把自己折騰死了，就是把自己無聊死了。那些洋房、豪車，最後都不知道是誰的。我告訴您，所有那些想錢想瘋了的，別說你大概率掙不到大錢，就算您拿命掙到了，那也是有命掙沒命花的主兒。人一旦死了，啥事兒都一筆勾銷了，您別太把自己當回事兒，死了跟那螻蟻本質上沒啥區別。別說外人，就您的兒女，也不會把您的離去太當回事兒。表面上吹吹打打，搞點動靜，那是怕別人說閒話。您前腳剛走，後腳您生前穿過的衣服、蓋過的被子、睡過的牀、坐過的輪椅，甚至您省喫儉用存的那些破爛玩意兒，都會被您的後代直接扔進垃圾桶，或者一把火給您燒了。然後幾個兒女互相拔刀相向，搶您的房子、搶您的錢。再過個三代，您的徒子徒孫，連您叫啥名都不知道了，您說您這一輩子折騰個啥勁兒啊？

我跟您說，百分之九十九的人，所謂的苦都是自找的。人不是到老了纔會死，而是隨時都可能死。您別老守着那道德高地，抱着那原則高尚不放，在我看來，只要不犯法，您愛咋活咋活，管別人屁事啊！您看咱小時候多好啊，一根棒棒糖就能哄得開心一整天，那笑容比那春天的花兒還燦爛。可長大了呢，非得把生活搞得那麼複雜，跟那解不開的亂麻似的。您揹着一堆原本就不屬於您的東西，那些所謂的了不起的大事兒，其實啊，等您兩腿一蹬，兩眼一閉，啥都不是。地球照樣每天滾滾向前，不會因爲您的事兒就停下腳步。

咱就舉個例子，有個小夥子，爲了多掙點錢，沒日沒夜地加班，身體累垮了，錢是掙了點，可最後全花在醫院裏了，還落下一身病，您說這值當嗎？還有那個大老闆，爲了擴大生意，四處奔波，壓力大得跟那泰山似的，最後抑鬱了，跳樓了，啥都沒了。您再看看那些普普通通的人，雖然掙得不多，但每天開開心心的，一家人圍坐在一起喫頓熱乎飯，那幸福感，比那些有錢人強多了。

所以啊，列位看官，從今天開始，咱就怎麼高興怎麼來，所有一切讓您不爽的人和不爽的事兒，通通讓它們滾蛋，有多遠滾多遠。咱就好好活着，好好善待自己，別爲那些破事兒操心，您說是不是這個理兒？

作者簡介：梁世傑 原首都醫科大學中醫門診部中醫主治醫師，京畿瘤科創始人，本科學歷，從事中醫臨牀工作25年，積累了較豐富的臨牀經驗。師從首都醫科大學附屬北京中醫院肝病科主任醫師、著名老中醫陳勇，侍診多載，深得器重，盡得真傳！擅用“商湯經方分類療法”、專病專方結合“焦樹德學術思想”“關幼波十綱辨證”學術思想治療疑難雜症爲特色。現任北京樹德堂中醫研究院研究員，北京中醫藥薪火傳承新3+3工程—焦樹德門人（陳勇）傳承工作站研究員，國際易聯易學與養生專委會常務理事，中國中醫藥研究促進會焦樹德學術傳承專業委員會委員，中國藥文化研究會中醫藥慢病防治分會首批癌症領域入庫專家。榮獲2020年中國中醫藥研究促進會仲景醫學分會舉辦的第八屆醫聖仲景南陽論壇“經方名醫”榮譽稱號。2023年首屆京津冀“扁鵲杯”燕趙醫學研究主題徵文優秀獎獲得者。事蹟入選《當代科學家》雜誌、《中華英才》雜誌。

Can’t be stylish? Then just live happily like an ordinary person.

Gentlemen and ladies, today we’ll open up and talk freely without getting bogged down in frivolous matters. Let’s discuss the reality of living. You see, the wealthy in this world are always bustling and energetic, moving through life like a tornado. However, we must understand that for 99% of people, their so-called struggles might just be the prelude to disaster! Look around; more and more people have simply vanished, just like in TV dramas where someone suddenly “passes away.” This isn’t just idle chatter; such occurrences are quite common in reality. So, today we’ll delve into the subject of “death studies.” Whether you’re interested in death, afraid of it, or believe you can live forever, it’s essential to listen carefully. It just might add some flavor to your otherwise mundane life.

Well, when I speak, my language might be a bit rough, much like coarse cloth and plain garments. It’s not flashy, but the points I make are genuine. Please bear with me, just as you would tolerate eating plain tea and simple meals. While they may not be refined, they can still fill your stomach, right?

Let’s start by discussing the differences between humans and animals. In reality, most of us are not significantly different from animals. We have a bit more cunning than other animals and can speak, but that’s about it. The skills you possess, others can also possess, and the things you cannot do, others might be well-versed in. So, don’t always believe in the phrase “I was born with talent, and it will surely be useful.” I’m telling you, in most cases, even if you go to the King of Hell, no one will use you. Heavenly beings do not assign significant tasks to mere mortals like us; we exist in this world merely to make up the numbers, much like the background players on a stage. Believe it or not.

Look at it this way: Most people can’t even properly guide their own children, yet they still dream of influencing the world. Isn’t that like a fool’s fantasy? Take the mortgage issue, for example. How many people have worked hard for most of their lives to pay off this debt, only to die without being able to do so, and yet they justify it by claiming it’s a divine mission? Give it a rest! The fact that we, the vast majority of people, have been able to exist on this planet is not because we were sent here to save humanity. If you harbor such thoughts, it’s purely narcissistic. The reason you exist in this world is quite simple: it’s simply because your parents had a fleeting whim at some point in the past. Life is straightforward like that; there’s no need for complicated explanations.

If you insist on asking me what the point of living is, I’ll tell you that it’s similar to the process by which our parents created us. We tried to find ways to prolong our lives and make them more comfortable, just like that. Don’t always think that laziness is bad; it’s actually a way to reduce the burden on your heart. Just like an old horse needs to rest after running tiredly. What’s wrong with wanting to sleep more? Sleeping longer helps strengthen our immune cells, making us feel great and enjoy everything we eat. Occasionally making small mistakes is not a big deal; it’s just like when kittens and puppies get mischievous. It’s a natural instinct in all animals, designed to stimulate our cerebral cortex and keep our bodies alive with passion. The ancients understood this long ago: “Food and desire are fundamental aspects of human nature.” This saying makes sense.

But there are so many people out there who, in pursuit of that big money, act like they’re on ecstasy and go crazy. Think about it: Are you starving to death or without a place to sleep? Even if you manage to earn a lot of money, what’s the point? Look at all those supposedly wealthy individuals who end up either killing themselves or getting bored to death. The fancy mansions and luxury cars eventually belong to no one. Let me tell you, all those people who have gone crazy over money – not only are they unlikely to actually earn a lot, but even if they manage to do so, they’re the kind of people who have the means to earn money but not the means to enjoy it. Once you’re dead, everything is wiped clean. Don’t take yourself too seriously; in the end, you’re no different from an ant. Even your own children won’t take your passing too seriously. On the surface, there might be some pomp and circumstance, but that’s just to avoid gossip from others. As soon as you leave, the clothes you wore, the blankets you slept under, the beds you slept on, the wheelchairs you used, and even the trinkets and knick-knacks you saved through frugality will be thrown directly into the trash or burned for you. Then your children will turn on each other, fighting over your house and your money. After three generations, your descendants might not even know your name. What was the point of all your struggles throughout your life?

Let me tell you, ninety-nine percent of people’s so-called hardships are self-inflicted. People do not only die when they are old; they can die at any moment. Don’t cling so tightly to that moral high ground and hold onto those lofty principles. In my opinion, as long as you are not breaking the law, you can live as you please, and it’s none of anyone else’s business! Remember how wonderful we were when we were kids? A single piece of candy could make us happy for an entire day, and our smiles were brighter than the flowers in spring. But as we grew older, we had to make life so complicated, like tangled threads that are impossible to untangle. You carry around a load of things that were never truly yours in the first place, those so-called significant matters. In reality, when your legs give out and your eyes close, none of it matters. The Earth will continue to roll forward every day, unaffected by your affairs.

Let me give you an example. There was a young man who, in order to earn more money, worked non-stop and exhausted his body. Although he managed to earn some money, it all ended up being spent at the hospital, leaving him with various illnesses. Would you say it was worth it? And then there’s that big boss who, in order to expand his business, traveled extensively and was under immense pressure, eventually developing depression and jumping off a building, losing everything. Take a look at those ordinary people who, although they earn relatively little, live happy lives, enjoying meals together as a family. The sense of happiness they experience is far superior to that of the wealthy individuals.

So, gentlemen and ladies, starting from today, we’ll do whatever makes us happy. Let all the people and things that annoy us just disappear as far as possible. We’ll live well and take good care of ourselves. Don’t worry about those trivial matters. Isn’t that the truth?

Author profile: Liang Shi-jie was a chief physician of traditional Chinese medicine at the Traditional Chinese Medicine Outpatient Clinic of Capital Medical University. He was the founder of Jingyi Tumor Clinic. He holds a bachelor’s degree and has been engaged in clinical work in traditional Chinese medicine for 25 years, accumulating extensive clinical experience. He studied under Chen Yong, a renowned senior traditional Chinese medicine practitioner at the Hepatology Department of Beijing Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital affiliated to Capital Medical University. Over the years, he gained great respect and acquired genuine expertise. He specializes in using the “Shang Tang Classic Classification Therapy” and combining specific treatments for specific diseases with the “Jiao Shu-de Academic Thought” and the “Guan You-bo Ten-Principle Diagnosis” approach to treat complex medical conditions. He is currently a researcher at the Beijing Shu-de-Tang Traditional Chinese Medicine Research Institute and a researcher at the Beijing New 3+3 Project for the Inheritance of Traditional Chinese Medicine – Jiao Shu-de’s Disciples (Chen Yong) Heritage Workstation. He is a Standing director of the International Yi-lian Yi-xue and Health Preservation Committee and a member of the Committee for the Inheritance of Jiao Shu-de’s Academic Thought of the China Research Promotion Association for Traditional Chinese Medicine. He is also a member of the inaugural Cancer Expert Pool of the China Cultural Research Association for Traditional Chinese Medicine’s Prevention of Chronic Diseases. He was awarded the title of “Expert in Classic Prescriptions” at the Eighth Nanyang Forum of the Zhang Zhongjing Medical Division of the China Research Promotion Association in 2020. In 2023, he won the Excellence Award in the First Beijing-Tianjin-Hebei “Bian Que Cup” Yan-Zhao Medical Research Theme Essay Competition. His achievements have been featured in the magazines “Contemporary Scientists” and “China’s Elite”.